The Topic Of The Day= Relationships
Every day I get a call from one of my friends and the topic of the discussion is basically why cant they find a decent man. Well, to this question I tailor my response according to the friends current status. There are many types of women out there and each woman has a specific “history” or should i say “herstory”. The “herstory” usually includes a very sad factor. This factor, as Lauren Hill would put it, is the “ex-factor”. This “ex-factor” has a powerful effect over a woman. The effect of the “ex-factor” can cause a woman to do things she would not normally do and act a little crazy. The ex-factor can impact the woman’s future. Sad but true.
My after thought….. Woman are capable of great, even immeasurable things however woman are the least productive when obsessing over the “ex-factor”.
The ex-factor I am referring to is basically a woman’s past. No, No not a particular “ex”. Any and all of them. So no, “you think this song is about you” but its NOT.
The ex-factor is impacting your life because you let it…. You may be constantly reminiscing, replaying thoughts, emotions, experiences over and over in your mind so of course you are attracting these types of recurrences.
Delete the ex-factor
Go ahead and delete the ex-factor. Remove all contact with this ex-factor and even when you are faced with an urge to coincidentally be in the neighborhood, call, write, stock the ex-factor’s facebook account- REFUSE the urge and move on at all costs. Avoid all contact and please do something productive, do something for yourself. Do not fall into the ex-factor trap.
This trap can have devastating side effects and in most cases when a woman gets caught up in the ex-factor she finds herself in the same place where she started a long time ago. The vicious cycle leads to nowhere.
So you say you have deleted the ex-factor
After you have deleted the ex-factor several things may or may not occur. The ex-factor may suddenly “become” the man you wanted him to be. Don’t fall into this trap, more often than not this is just a facade Sooner than later you will realize that you are once again going nowhere fast. You may suddenly be feeling stronger than usual and you may try to convince yourself that “hey being friends with the ex-factor wouldn’t hurt”. This is also a big or should I say BIG mistake.
When you say you have deleted the ex-factor you must really mean it. Do not try to justify making contact with the ex-factor. Justification is the road to disaster.
Don’t be so sad
At times a girl may be left feeling a little sad. This is only natural and is temporary if you wait long enough to let the sad feelings pass. More often than not an instant fix is preferred. Upon finding the instant remedy to cure the sadness a girl can get tangled in a web of trouble.
Once in a while the ex-factor comes over to haunt you in your dreams. They knock on your dream door and in that dream your situation allows you to open the door and your fantasies become reality. You open the door and another door to your heart that had been closed for such a long time opens as well. You express the love you once felt in words and actions. But then you awaken from this dream to find nothing has changed and your life is back, you are now back to square one. You must use your energy to remember the pain that ex-factor had caused and you must remember how it was just an infatuation and nothing real at all. My point is that In your dreams the ex-factor is what you wished they would be … The perfect piece
Look into your past and you may find a particular person which you just cant get out of your thoughts. They haunt you in your waking life and in you dreams. They are that constant hazard that every now and then creeps up on you. When you and this individual connect there are sparks of dangerous energy colliding. All the signs are pointing to the nearest exit. You should run and hide because when you fall into this hole there is no turning back. At the moment you may consider this “destiny”, “the one” in the making. Your heart beats so fast and you have this feeling that can take over your mind and body and causes you to do crazy, unspeakable things. This person or the combination of the both of you together is a recipe for disaster.
Lust, Deceite, Passion, Danger, Infatuation, Fixation, Obsession…. Does this remind you of anyone?