“Take a swim”

I think sometimes it is so important to just go for a swim. Get wet from head to toe. A good friend used to say to me “go jump in the pool”. I never got it till now but water has a healing property. Stop thinking and just let go. I wish I could write this from underwater so I can truly describe the experience. I guess you will just have to go do it for yourself:)

Don’t be so sad

At times a girl may be left feeling a little sad. This is only natural and is temporary if you wait long enough to let the sad feelings pass. More often than not an instant fix is preferred. Upon finding the instant remedy to cure the sadness a girl can get tangled in a web of trouble.

So you say you have deleted the ex-factor

After you have deleted the ex-factor several things may or may not occur. The ex-factor may suddenly “become” the man you wanted him to be. Don’t fall into this trap, more often than not this is just a facade Sooner than later you will realize that you are once again going nowhere fast. You may suddenly be feeling stronger than usual and you may try to convince yourself that “hey being friends with the ex-factor wouldn’t hurt”. This is also a big or should I say BIG mistake.

When you say you have deleted the ex-factor you must really mean it. Do not try to justify making contact with the ex-factor. Justification is the road to disaster.

Delete the ex-factor

Go ahead and delete the ex-factor. Remove all contact with this ex-factor and even when you are faced with an urge to coincidentally be in the neighborhood, call, write, stock the ex-factor’s facebook account- REFUSE the urge and move on at all costs. Avoid all contact and please do something productive, do something for yourself. Do not fall into the ex-factor trap.

This trap can have devastating side effects and in most cases when a woman gets caught up in the ex-factor she finds herself in the same place where she started a long time ago. The vicious cycle leads to nowhere.  

The Ex-Factor

The ex-factor I am refering to is basically a woman’s past. No, No not a particular “ex”. Any and all of them. So no, “you think this song is about you” but its NOT.

The ex-factor is impacting your life because you let it…. You may be constantly reminising, replaying thoughts, emotions, experiences over and over in your mind so of course you are attracting these types of recurrences.

The Topic Of The Day= Relationships

Every day I get a call from one of my friends and the topic of the discussion is basically why cant they find a decent man. Well, to this question I tailor my response according to the friends current status. There are many types of women out there and each woman has a specific “history” or should i say “herstory”. The “herstory” usualy includes a very sad factor. This factor, as Lauren Hill would put it, is the “ex-factor”. This “ex-factor” has a powerful effect over a woman. The effect of the “ex-factor” can cause a woman to do things she would not normally do and act a little crazy. The ex-factor can impact the woman’s future. Sad but true.

My after thought….. Woman are capable of great, even immeasurable things however woman are the least productive when obsessing over the “ex-factor”.